But it is not a good idea to downright lie, especially when it comes to things that are pretty obvious and may result in a shock in your first date.  A good example of this is showing a picture on your profile of you twenty years ago.    Your date won’t appreciate this.

Now in general, if you want to find a nice perfect girl, you need to be yourself up to the challenge.     So, I will get to the next point as directly as I can. 

If you don’t work, you live on welfare or on the street, haven’t finished high school, or are supported by your parents and you are over 25 years old, really don’t expect anyone taking you very seriously.  

Another scare for women is to meet a man who recently declared bankruptcy.   I am sorry, I won’t lie to you, this is just the way it is.    I would suggest your setting up some nice goals for your life and start working on them before thinking of dating.

Now for the first date, the rule of inviting someone is that the one who invites pays.   This is an unbreakable rule if you are a man.    I don’t think that many women are eager to date anyone who invites her to dinner for a first time and then proceeds to pay only his share.   It looks cheap and ridiculous.

Of course, once the relationship has progressed, it is ok to take turns paying, but for first impressions try to do your best, Ok?

Finally, try not to be overly insisting.  If the girl wants to meet in a public place for a five minute coffee, respect that.  I have known of guys who insist on the woman receiving them in their home as a first date.    This sort of behavior only creates suspicion about you either being broke or dangerous.    And definitely I would advise any woman reading this not to meet anyone at her home for a first date, in fact it would be better to wait and know the other person a little bit before trying to make any sort of contact in real life.

Online dating is different from meeting someone from your network of acquaintances.  There is really little to hold the other side accountable for their actions, so you could as well expect the unexpected.  

To spare yourself any disagreeable surprise I would advise you follow your gut feeling and be cautious.   

And please if you don’t like your date romantically as it is often the case, at least be polite and friendly.  Don’t ruin his or her experience in cyber-dating, so she won’t trust the next person in her or his life. 

All this said, happy cyber-dating in the season of love.  J